The first date. It’s a thick hunk of excitement, slathered in promise, sandwiched between two slices of stress. You have to look good…but not too good, so he doesn’t think you’re trying too hard. You have to flirt just enough to keep him tantalised, but not so much that he wonders if you’re the kind of girl who’d throw herself at a Good Friday Bobolee if it was wearing cologne and a nice suit.
Plus you have to find out as much as you can about him. Presumably, if you’re actually out with the man, you’ve already ruled out the possibility that he’s an axe murderer or an escapee from an asylum. But there’s a whole lot of stuff you should find out about him before you proceed to date two. And the only way to get information is to come right out and ask. Here are a few questions that could give you X-ray vision into his mind
What’s the scariest/grossest/most fun thing you have ever done?
This one will take him off guard. He was probably expecting you to ask about his job, his family, his marital status…but this? His answer will give you some insight into what excites him, interests, him, turns him off or on. Good follow-ups are: And how did you deal with it? What did you learn? Would you do it again?
If you could go anywhere in the world, where would you go and why?
His answer can tell you how he feels about his heritage, (does he want to visit the land of his ancestors?) his boyish fantasies, (white-water rafting in Canada, photo safaris in Kenya) or his secret sexual desires (Bangkok, anyone?) Another similar question: You have $1 million and one week to spend it. Go.



